My entire family is descending upon the house today for Elayna's graduation ( Read more... )

* Some people have been sending me, at my request, their observations of his behavior patterns. If you have observations, please do that. It helps to have corroborating evidence of his behaviors. Because gaslighting. I am also speaking to some people who've known him far longer than I, with interesting results. If you've had this sort of issue with ( Read more... )

Judah's portion of the rent was $600/month. (And he was supposed to be paying 1/4 of the utilities, but he hasn't been doing that ( Read more... )

Michael has been marvelous at keeping me busy and getting me through this, but he is leaving this morning, and soon I will just be back to bleakly figuring this out ( Read more... )

( Obvious triggers, but really, I'm sure you're sick of hearing about it. Happy post to follow. )

I have had it clarified for me that Judah's behavior is actually not new. That it did not suddenly emerge. That it had been in evidence since at least September; that this was merely the first two eruptions of violence, but that he's already established a classic domestic violence cycle.

( descriptions of domestic abuse cycle )

Thank You.
I'm not able to thank everyone individually; I get overwhelmed when I try. But thank you.

No, Seriously, Thank You.
Special thanks to those who noted that a break with reality this sudden and severe is likely to be a medical issue and immediately reiterated that this does not excuse any of it or absolve him in any way. I agree with you ( Read more... )

Okay so here is the beginning of the story ( Read more... )

Advisory: Following a period of escalating horrific behavior over the past month, Judah Sher (sindrian) raped me Wednesday night and physically assaulted me this morning. Police reports have been filed and investigation is ongoing. I have been granted a three-month restraining order against him so, uh, please do not invite us to the same parties. More ( Read more... )